Lacunas: What is in Your Blindspot? - Love Bombs Show 14

April 24th, 2014

Lacunas.  We all have them, some we are aware of, some not so much.  They are those thoughts, ideas and beliefs we carry around that are just outside of our line of site.  I know personally that I have a few that are holding me back and it's frustrating to know that I have something in me that holds me back yet it is just a bit out of reach.

Today Dave and I talk about lacunas, the damage they can cause and what we can do to start identifying our own.  I for one know I would like to get out of my own about you?


It’s Just How I Am - Love Bombs Show 13

April 17th, 2014

If you use the excuse that "this is how I am", this is the show for you.  We talk about those limited beliefs and ideas that we cling to that hold us back from positive change in our lives.

Are there things you don't do because in your mind that is just not part of who you are?  Well just so you know you have the power to change that.

If you are diving into dating after 40 this is another area where you may feel stuck in your ways.  Using the excuse that "this is just how I am" in order not to move forward.

I invite you to listen to the podcast and also check out my book Modern Love: The Grownup's Guide to Relationships & Online Dating and also a book I contributed to Dating Success After 40.  Both books can help you get out of your rut and design the type of love and life you want.


Attention is NOT Love! - Love Bombs Show 12

April 10th, 2014

So maybe you have shared a moment...or two with someone. You are sure there is something more between you.  They feel otherwise. 

In this episode we talk about the concept of thinking that attention equals love.  It is surely a part of love, but just because someone gives you the time of day doesn't mean they love you. 

We also dig into the nastiness of keeping a relationship going even when you are only arguing and fighting and essentially giving each other bad attention.  You both deserve better.

For the super clingy I invite you to check out my WinkWisely article: Are You Dating a Stage 5 Clinger? to find out if you have someone on your hands that can't take NO for an answer.

Have you confused attention for love?


Strength, Attraction and Relationships - Love Bombs Show 11

April 3rd, 2014

There are many things we are attracted to in relationships.  For me it's very important that the man I am with be strong.  I have a very dominant personality already and so I need to know that my partner can call me out on my crap when necessary and be strong in their own right. 

In this podcast Dave and I talk about the many forms strength can take in a relationship.  So ask yourself do you want a relationship where they are the strong one, one where you dominate them our a partnership of equals?  We would love to hear your thoughts!